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Blogs > Jacqui1000 > Life on the Rock


Jacqui1000 61F
141 posts
9/23/2013 12:15 pm
The Next Step on the Journey


"Your present circumstances don't determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start."
-- Nido Qubein

I'm a very upbeat person. I'm also blessed to be surrounded by positive people in my family and circle of friends. We're all glass-half-full folks. This is the reason I'm always taken aback when a negative person crosses my path.

Negativity doesn't compute for me. Meeting people who are negative, glass mostly empty folks leaves me with a bad taste in my brain and heart. It's as if their negativity tries to drag me down with it.

I'm very empathic and, according to my friends and family, am a good listener. I tend to absorb the negative energy given off by someone I'm close to and feel absolutely terrible as a result. And even though I'm very extroverted, I'm not an overly assertive person, so I will let people talk their hearts out to me without much interruption (other than reflective responses). That's how my date-day on Saturday went south in such a hurry. Talkers realize when they've got a listener on the line.

It didn't really hit me how very negative this man is until yesterday while I was in church. This is why I always stress in my "who I'm looking for" certain qualities that add up to being an upbeat man, because if you're not, we won't be a good fit at all.

So, now I start my dating journey all over again, feeling weighed down by the notion of "what ifs." What if I run into another person like this? What if my radar doesn't pick up on it--like this time--prior to actually meeting the man?

Oh, I do hate "what ifs," but I'm not deterred by them. The little voice in the back of my head keeps telling me to continue on my journey, telling me to keep looking.

I firmly believe that there is someone for everyone and that my someone is out there waiting for me to show up.
"If the doctor told me I had six minutes to live, I'd type a little faster." — Isaac Asimov
Jacqui1000 61F

9/24/2013 6:34 am

 Thanks, Blue! It's true, saying "NO" is such a tough thing for me. I mean, I do have boundaries, but as a Stephen Minister through my church, I've been trained to be a good listener. I'm used to using that training in everyday life as well, but this guy just took it way too far. I could definitely tell, in short order, why both his wives left him.

I'm getting some interesting people, too. . .just not on FF, SFF or BC. I'm on Our Time, which definitely has a better selection.

Praying for you as well!
"If the doctor told me I had six minutes to live, I'd type a little faster." — Isaac Asimov