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Blogs > archristiangal38 > Pause for Prose


archristiangal38 56F
34 posts
8/2/2009 8:38 pm
Single in Chruch
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FragrantRose8 67F

8/3/2009 5:21 pm

 I see your frustration!!! I've never been married and at times it can be very lonely beingin the church and trying to fit--I;m in a wonderful church now who have embraced me--pray fo rme--include me--I feel very home there--but no singles--a couple divorced precious sisters--but it;s more a family church!! I want a church more where I can be used of God rather then trying to ofnd one with ahuge singles ministry---my girlfriend goes to one and the singles group has 200 in it but there is Spiritual life--only social events!! I simply beleive the lord will bring the right one into my life in his wonderful timing--his way--not mine!!! Blessings--FragrantRose8


archristiangal38 56F

8/3/2009 6:42 pm

 Thanks Rose,
I don't think church should be like your girlfriend's. I don't think it should be a place to "hook up" but singles do need to be ministered to just like anyone else. One thing God has shown me is that HE IS enough. His grace is sufficient and I praise Him for that!!!


Hisglory77
(Byron ) 64M

8/3/2009 10:53 pm

 Perhaps you may find this link helpful. Finding a date in your church

I can understand your frustration, and especially seeing the part of the country you live in, is an area where people don't want to learn new things, but would rather that everyone else conform to them.

There are a lot of things I could say, and a wealth of Scriptures that backs up your points, and repudiates the traditional views of divorce in the Christian communuty. But at the end of the day nothing is changed.

A few years back, I was attending a church much like what you described. When I first joined and met with one of the elders, he was quick to tell me how divorce is frowned upon. It's always entirely the husbands fault because he is the spiritual head of the house, and his lack of faith causes his marriage to fail.
In that particular church, re-marriage, and even dating is a no no for those who are divorced. Ministry oppertunities are denied to divorcees because they are setting a poor example. He even went as far as to say that if an oppertunity ever arose for me to date one of his grown up daughters, he would strongly forbid it.
In their thinking, divorcees have only two options. Either reconciliation with the former spouse, or stay home and pray for that reconciliation.
It's a pity that the vast majority of churches view and handle divorce in such a manner, and it seems to change only when it happens to them.
Isaiah 66:2b; But to this one I will look, To him who is humble and contrite of spirit, and who trembles at My word.