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From the Heart of a Man What I'm about to address really is an issue that deals with women more then it does men. That is the issue of self image. It's all around you. The standards and expectations of what a woman is "supposed" to look like and when you aren't, that feeling of worthlessness becomes part of you. I have to say, as a guy that has dated women with low self esteem, it is troublesome. When a guy tells the girl he loves, that she is beautiful, he doesn't want to hear, "you're just saying that because you love me." You know if that was the case, why in the world would we have asked you out in the first place?!? Taking the point aside that issues of vanity isn't a godly trait, nor is it fair for the man you are with to basically hear that "you are lying to me;" this is an area that many women are captive to and need to be set free. There are several resources that I would like to recommend on that end: Wanting To Be Her: Body Image Secrets Victoria Won't Tell You by Michelle Graham, Beauty is Soul Deep (this is a devotional), Authentic Beauty by Leslie Ludy and a movie titled The Elephant Man (A 1980 film starting John Hurt & Anthony Hopkins). It's going to take work but it's worth it. It isn't going to be easy. Reminiscent to what my boxing coach once told me, "you can do things your way or the right way but someone is going to get hit." In the same vain, painful issues and even strongholds are required of you to face, if you want your freedom. You are already battling your body and telling yourself how worthless you are. Instead of getting hit and fighting for the wrong things, turn around and fight and beat up the things that are worth your time and effort. One way or another, something going to get hit. 
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12/24/2008 10:58 pm |
Well...this probably is just going to make people urked, but oh well...I have a right to my opinion too! I believe God has given us desires to be attractive. When I look my best, I feel my best. I gain confidence. Does the media play on the fact that women like to feel beautiful? Heck yah! We all have days where our confidence is low. I don't just want to feel attractive physically...I want to feel smart and fun, etc. Low self esteem goes beyond physical appearance. I was married to a man who I literally could not please for eleven years. He could find fault in everything I did or did not do. My love languages are words of affirmation and physical touch...he shunned me in both areas leading me to feel what you would call low self esteem. I'm gaining confidence in knowing that the Lord thinks I'm beautiful and smart and fun and very capable. He made me! Don't be too critical of women who struggle with this. It isn't that we are calling you liars...we just need that extra affirmation. We don't see us as you do. We see the faults that have been so readily pointed out to us in the past. Be patient with us! We will feel beautiful again!
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7/7/2009 8:03 pm |
"FROM THE HEART OF A WOMAN" Is beauty really in the eye of the beholder? Beauty is fleeting says the Lord, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised! In the beginning of our adolescent years we were programmed to fulfill certain roles (girl: pretty, clean, sweet, pink, good, graceful, make up, sexy etc....) (boy: strong, athletic, provider, aggressive,leader etc...) Our adult family influences, shaped our belief system and thus created a "make believe world" of our very own value system. A continuous reinforcement of these beliefs...being positive or negative, formed one of the two self fulfilled prophecies: a super ego mentality or a diminished view of self worth. But here comes Jesus to save the day! To be in God's perfect will and to empty oneself in order that we may be filled with His Spirit, power and love, means to surrender all pre-programed information ingrained in our subconscious. We need to step into the Glory of the Living God in order to experience His Divine cloak of mercy, and demagnetize our warped sense of reality. All pre-conceived ideals, presumptions, and suppositions will be dissolved into His everlasting promise of love and forgiveness. A new birth is imminent within our souls and a new life can be initiated, free of prejudice and manipulation. Yes, it's nice to clean, dress up and paint the old barn when it needs it...but most importantly, let's remember the inner self: prayer(tongues,intercession), supplication, fasting, meditating on God's word, praise (music, song), edification, exhortation and most of all, love for humanity. When we focus on the fruit of the Spirit, the word as our daily bread of life, on being thankful for every "little blessing" we receive from the very throne of God and on loving others unconditionally.....we will permeate God's radiance, our beauty will be greater than any human eye has ever experienced. Our countenance will reflect His insatiable passion for creation, and our hearts will learn to love ourselves exactly as we were created by Jesus. Yes, once we accept Jesus Christ and become intimately one with him, we become beautiful in His eyes. Others will be attracted to His Spirit within us and we will know without a shadow of a doubt, it's not the paint the old barn is painted with, but the King's hand that creates a "Master Piece" with every brush stroke of His transforming love. In Christ, Alexa
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