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Is it wrong to NOT want to pray with someone???? I live in an apartment building with all college students primarily age 18-20. Being a little older than that, I am usually the one they come to for advice and prayer and so forth. And we also have a weekly Bible study at my apartment. No problem with all of that. But then there is this one girl inparticular...she came to me one time for prayer and we prayed. I had a heavy burden for her on my heart and had been praying for her for weeks. When we prayed, I was touching her and we had used annointing oil...nothing too strange about all of that..but then she started coming around on a very regular basis, like too regular... mind you I go to school full time, work 40+ hours, do volunteer work, lead Bible study, plus whatever else...so my time is pretty full to say the least...well as soon as I would pull up to the apartments she would be at my car door wanting to go pray together...she would talk my ear off and then ask me to pray for her... but it was never good enough.. she would say 'no you have to lay hands on me... where's your annointing oil...you have to say this or do that...' and she would insist on hugging me all the time. Usually that isn't a problem for me because I am a very "touchy" "huggy" person, but it just made me soooo uncomfortable...well it got to the point where if I had company, she would come down and linger, and then wisper to me "can we go pray somewhere", or if she saw me leave with someone, she would text me and say 'when can we pray again". I don't want to be selfish or unloving but it's a little... can I say... weird. A lot of people are so annoyed by her that they run and hide from her.. which I sometimes feel like doing but I don't want to turn my back on her, especially when everyone else did. I have talked to her about it briefly and told her that I feel a little uncomfortable with her insisting I have to "lay hands on her" all the time and that she hugs me consistantly. And I told her that I can't just say and pray what she tells me to if that's not what God is leading me to. She says she only recieves from God when I pray a certain way. well I told her that I didn't feel comfortable with this situation and that I can't force God to speak to us by "doing prayer a certain way" and she said "well that's fine, I'll just find someone else who will pray the way I want them to." I'm not really sure what to do in this situation, I have talked to some friends but they all tell me to leave her be and just pray FOR her (but they are bias because they know her and how hard it is to deal with her). Just wondering what an outside opinion would be of the situation. I don't want to turn my back on her but I'm weirded out and don't feel comfortable with her.... |
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11/24/2008 9:18 pm |
Ladies..thank you so much for your advice. I think I agree... I need to pray FOR her and not WITH her.... and I think I knew that but yet felt odd to think of turning someone down to pray. But I almost think that she is so desperate for attention that she uses this to get people to spend a little time with her because most Christians will not turn you away for prayer. So it become an automatic attention getter. I have a little break from her because she went home to see her parents for Thanksgiving. But next time she addresses me I will just lovingly explain to her that God is not leading me to do or say what she insists on me doing so I have to ask her to accept that I don't feel led to pray with her but I will pray for her. Please pray that she will understand because the last time I tried to explain this to her she didn't seem to comprehend, actually 2 of my friends came to me and asked me about her and when I asked why they were asking they said that she had went to them to ask for prayer (mind you she barely knows either of them) but asked them to not tell me that they prayed with her. Of course this sent a red flag up to them so they came and asked me. It's very frusterating not only for me but because I see her going to a lot of different people also...
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11/24/2008 10:07 pm |
She could be mentaly ill too. psychotic, or bi-polar, or a miriad of things. Take care of yourself. Don't be alone with someone like that. Whether she comprehends or not, I'd not be alone with her. Praying for you here too. Blessings, Robin   "Love is Patient..."
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11/25/2008 4:10 am |
Teach her to pray alone....In intimacy with Christ and how great it is to be still..to listen.. Check in on her progress....GBY ‘HE will rule them with an iron scepter.’... He treads the winepress of the fury of the wrath of God Almighty.... On HIS robe and on HIS thigh HE has this name written:... KING OF KINGS AND LORD OF LORDS."
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Teach her to pray alone....In intimacy with Christ and how great it is to be still..to listen.. Check in on her progress....GBY May God Bless You in ABUNDANCE
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11/28/2008 11:52 pm |
 Surely GOD doesnot want you/us to feel unconfortable while praying to Him.
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12/10/2008 8:18 pm |
wpx1, Thank you for your response. I don't have the time at the moment for a complete response, but I wanted to say thank you for an unbiased and honest and caring response. I do appreciate your response very much. One thing that did strike me was the part about 'boundaries', I will definatly be praying about God helping me to see where they need to be and to put them into place. Earlier today a teacher at my school talked to me about me needing to set up more boundaries in different areas. This young lady has stopped coming to see me almost all together, but every other day she has a new person at her house to pray with her, yet never the same one. The lady that was there last weekend drove an hour and 1/2 to come. She is also going to counseling with a professional, she has admitted to having an eatting disorder and that she 'cuts' herself. She also admitted to leaving her last school because she was labeled a 'lesbian'. Me and some friends went out to eat the other day and we invited her, and she did come. I thank everyone for their advice, I really do want to help her through this, well part of me does...lol...I just don't want to give up as easy as everyone else has, it seems like everyone has thrown their hands up about the situation. Thank you all.....
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