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Topics for pre-marriage discussion 1. Socio-economic backgrounds of family 2. Intelligence 3. Formal education 4. Verbal skills 5. Expected roles for both persons within the marriage 6. Views about power distribution within the family 7. Desired number of 8. When a family should be started 9. rearing views 10. Political philosophy 11. Views about smoking, alcohol and drugs 12. Amount of involvement with in-laws 13. Sense of humour 14. Punctuality 15. Dependability 16. Desire for verbal intimacy and be ability to be intimate 17. The role of conflict and how to resolve it. 18. The way to handle anger. 19. How friendships with the opposite sex should be handled 20. Expected amount of privacy and rules for its use 21. Level of ambition 22. Life goals 23. Attitudes about weight 24. Religious and spiritual beliefs and preferences 25. Amount of church involvement 26. Family spiritual involvement 27. Hobbies and interests 28. Type of music enjoyed (and at what volume) 29. Energy level for physical activities 30. Sexual drive and sexual interests 31. Amount of income to be spent and saved 32. How money should be allocated (clothes, vacations, etc.) 33. Amount of money to be given away and to whom 34. Degree of risks to be taken with investments 35. Attitudes about cleanliness -- house, clothes, body, etc. 36. Ways of handling sickness 37. Health standards -- when to see a doctor 38. Interpersonal and social skills 39. Amount and type of social involvement preferred 40. Geographical area in which to live 41. Size and style of house 42. Type of furniture and decorations 43. Amount and type of travel preferred 44. How to spend vacations 45. How to celebrate major holidays 46. How much time to spend together 47. When to go to sleep and get up 48. Temperature of home during the day and night 49. Activity during meals (talking,, watching TV, etc.) 50. Television programs preferred 51. Distribution of chores 52. Gender roles 53. Discretionary amount of money Eph 2:10 We are his workmanship (poiema, or poem, or work of art) created in Christ Jesus. God is an artist and you are His masterpiece! |
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CF: Sometimes one should be more tactful! There are differences of opinion on what constitutes the Lord's name and not. You might want to review the following two linked earlier blogs, that created a little "turbulence" in the Spirit: 1) -->[post 132857] 2) -->Holy Guacamole Batman BB ___________________ That which is born of the flesh is flesh; and that which is born of the spirit is spirit. ( John 3:6 ) 
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Wow, Beven is back! Another vacation, huh? However, you missed the CAR topic. Meow is right, what about the CAT?? CATs are very versatile. Actually they are defined as: small domesticated carnivorous mammals with soft fur, a short snout, and retractile claws. Widely kept as pets... (Notice also their innate predisposition in/to domestiCATion Do not mix it with CATtle... that's different! I don't want to sound CATty or CATtish, but as far as I can see though, you have indirectly mentioned it in: eduCATion alloCATion and vaCATion And it's CATegorically implied in CATechesis, CATechism, CATaphatic affirmation, etc. and all the other CAT's. Also TV and Television programs might be expanded with CATv in your CATalog. As a curiosity there's some irregularities with the verb CATch too. (Not only with "mices"!!!  )Have a good day! 
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Lol, will use your list when we run out of my list of things to discuss. Will work wonders for a long internet relationship. I know it is needed but I am too impulsive and impatient for that. Will sit down and ask him if he can talk in shorthand. I am an artist and my ex an accountant. It was a recipe for disaster, I frustrated him immensely. I would pack up and plan a weekend away on a friday afternoon, him? Needed at least a few weeks. He would ask me in January where I think we should spend our December holiday, ARE YOU SERIOUS? I never think that far ahead. He needed a business plan for my household spending, a painting was not acceptable...... How I would view these: 1. Socio-economic backgrounds of family - First date discussion 2. Intelligence - if he is able to discuss no 1 3. Formal education - Spell: commitment 4. Verbal skills - If he passes no 2 5. Expected roles for both persons within the marriage - me wife, you husband 6. Views about power distribution within the family - Female secret 7. Desired number of children - at my age!!!!! 8. When a family should be started - refer to no 7 9. Child rearing views - he has a mother, I do not date guys that young 10. Political philosophy - who do I vote for Darling 11. Views about smoking, alcohol and drugs - lets see where he takes me for the 1st date 12. Amount of involvement with in-laws - how often do you see them over a 5 year period? 13. Sense of humor - If you are still reading, you have one 14. Punctuality - is that before or after the wedding 15. Dependability - You'd better be there when I need you 16. Desire for verbal intimacy and be ability to be intimate - the 1st date lasted past dessert 17. The role of conflict and how to resolve it- it was not me 18. The way to handle anger - run baby run 19. How friendships with the opposite sex should be handled - at a distance 20. Expected amount of privacy and rules for its use - my space and your space, which is also my space 21. Level of ambition - you are dating me! 22. Life goals - at our age!!!!!! if you do not have it, you are never gonna get it 23. Attitudes about weight - just agree with me on this one - then we can avoid no's 17 and 18 24. Religious and spiritual beliefs and preferences - What are you planning for the wedding? 25. Amount of church involvement - will know after 1st week 26. Family spiritual involvement - do not understand this question, maybe no 2 has not kicked in yet 27. Hobbies and interests - you pay for it 28. Type of music enjoyed (and at what volume) - you mean there is a volume control - talk louder, cannot hear you 29. Energy level for physical activities - what about a hike up Kilimanjaro 30. Sexual drive and sexual interests - what about a hike up Kilimanjaro 31. Amount of income to be spent and saved - your department, just ask me for my account no 32. How money should be allocated (clothes, vacations, etc.) - it is negotiable? 33. Amount of money to be given away and to whom - refer to no 31 34. Degree of risks to be taken with investments - refer to no 31 35. Attitudes about cleanliness -- house, clothes, body, etc. - do you pick up after yourself and me 36. Ways of handling sickness - For me or you? 37. Health standards -- when to see a doctor - refer to 36 38. Interpersonal and social skills - somehow we never get this far, I wonder what I am doing wrong? 39. Amount and type of social involvement preferred - do not interfere, refer to 17 and 18 40. Geographical area in which to live - let me get that magazine for you 41. Size and style of house - let me get that magazine for you 42. Type of furniture and decorations - let me get that magazine for you 43. Amount and type of travel preferred - let me get that magazine for you 44. How to spend vacations - let me get that magazine for you 45. How to celebrate major holidays - let me get that magazine for you 46. How much time to spend together - you want time apart????? 47. When to go to sleep and get up - do not worry, I will tell you when you are tired 48. Temperature of home during the day and night - silly question 49. Activity during meals (talking,, watching TV, etc.) - we eat during meals silly 50. Television programs preferred - I will tell you when to watch ok 51. Distribution of chores - I have your list all made up 52. Gender roles - me woman, you man 53. Discretionary amount of money - - refer to no 31 Lol by the time we are done with this, there are grounds for a divorce!!! Hi there, just had to pop in to say hi.
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10/14/2008 2:13 am |
Interesting list. Is there anything left to talk about AFTER we get married? Peter  "Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a workman who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly handles the word of truth" 2 Timothy 2 v 15
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10/13/2008 8:13 pm |
I am already tired  and don't have a partner to discuss 1-6 and 10-53...as for 7-9 I'm past that time in my life  I'll have to keep this list handy just in case!!!Don't judge each day by the Harvest you reap, but by the seeds you plant.
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