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Commitment and Covenant: For Women (Part 8 ) Part 8  All right, she goes on, and almost on queue after that steamy little 2 verses, she says “Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.” meaning this love thing has a proper time and a proper place. And intimacy has a proper time and a proper place and that is within the order and the definition and the commitment of marriage. That little tidbit there and then she goes on in verse 8 and says this, “Listen! My lover! Look! Here he comes leaping across the mountains bounding over the hills. My lover is like a gazelle or a young stag. ” Now here’s the symbolism and it is so beautiful. She’s paying attention to her husband and saying, look, listen and here he comes and she compares him to a gazelle. And a gazelle was a sleek, beautiful animal, but very gentle creature and was easily frightened. So for this animal to come out in sort of public view of everything and bound over the mountains like this conqueror was special and unique. And she has made him feel that way. One of the things ladies you have to understand and try to give to your husbands is you have to support his desire to conquer the mountains and to achieve things. Your husband and men have a desire to conquer and achieve things. This has to do with work, the call to the field, the sense of adventure and you got to understand it is part of man’s makeup. God gave Adam that responsibility to take care of the garden and to go forth and fill the Earth. And he has a desire and the problem is this. That desire because of the fall has been hurt and damaged and men have to be encouraged to come out like the gazelle. To come out and bound over the mountains and conquer and fulfill things. And ladies you help him do that, and you help him feel important. And never ever devalue and depreciate a man’s work. I learned this as a in my grandparent’s store. My Nana was one of the biggest encouragers of Papa. My grandfather would get an order in and stock the shoe boxes up in the store, pretty basic stuff. When he was done, Nana would heap so much praise on him, you know go out and conquer and fulfill, you would think he had a PhD in box stacking. She was like whoa, look at that and I was like, it is just boxes. What’s the big deal? But it is a big deal for a man to feel it is safe to come out and conquer and achieve. So always, always respect what your man is doing. Respect his desire to work. I am not saying this should happen every night, but if your husband needs to stay late, don’t guilt trip him about it. If it is just one time every now and then that’s got to be ok for you, because he wants to come out and he has this desire. Respect that and support that and thank him for that. You know I think every man would say, “You know what I want more than anything, I WANT A WOMAN THAT WILL BELIEVE IN ME.” What does Jesus want from us? He wants us to believe in him. Believe in what he conquered when he died and rose again. Believe in what he achieved, eternal life for us. Believe in your husbands. It goes on, verse 10, now the husband starts speaking now, “0 My lover spoke and said to me, "Arise, my darling, my beautiful one, and come with me. 11 See! The winter is past; the rains are over and gone. 12 Flowers appear on the earth; the season of singing has come, the cooing of doves is heard in our land. 13 The fig tree forms its early fruit; the blossoming vines spread their fragrance. Arise, come, my darling; my beautiful one, come with me.” See he gives her suddenly this interpretation of their relationship, their interpretation of circumstances, and he says the time has come. And she listens, and here is what she understands. Men have the desire to give insight analysis and counsel. And she listens to his insight, his analysis and counsel. The competition here is woman’s intuition and man’s insight. And she respects his ability, his insight and his interpretation. And he is telling her what he thinks is next in their relationship and in this season of their life and she listens to it and she respects it. You see women complain because men are always trying to fix things, right? He doesn’t listen to me he is trying to fix things. Understand this, your man’s problem solving is his way of empathizing with you. Every now and then, women, he has got to empathize and we will address that in the next segment for men, but every once in a while, let him fix something. Let him be a problem solver. Understand that is his way of empathizing. And don’t let your intuition cloud out his insight. A woman’s intuition coupled with a man’s insight makes for Godly decision-making. When women always say “I feel…but I think…but I don’t know why” and just totally ignore a husband’s insight analysis and counsel you chop off good decision-making. In the Garden of Eden, Eve had an intuition, and it deceived her. And the Bible says that Adam said nothing. He was just there with her. So somehow his part of the decision-making process was cut off. Ladies understand that. If you ever listen to men talk. Listen to them talk about politics and sports. They always have a theory, that if we were the president or if we were the head coach. Ladies, sometimes let your man be the president or the head coach. Say, “Oh baby, you are so right. You should call those plays, or you should run for office.” You know, just do it. That’s a way to spell respect to your man. All right, so here’s the deal. How are you doing? Women, would you evaluate how you do on this? And this week, this is what my challenge would be. Could you try to show respect in one of those five ways to your man? At least once a day, just take one of them. Say, “Today I am going to thank my man for going to work. And respect him for what he does while he is there. You know I don’t understand why my husband watches NASCAR, but I am going to sit down and watch a few laps with him until I slit my wrist. (No I am just kidding, really just kidding)” Give him that recreational companionship, because here’s the beautiful thing and this is my prayer. Can you imagine if everybody that gets married from this point on and everybody that is married works on this; if every husband felt as respected as Solomon did in this book, would that not change churches, places of businesses, athletic teams, schools, communities and the Kingdom? If men felt like that gazelle that could come out and lead and conquer and achieve, and they had their companion shoulder-to-shoulder with them. It would transform a culture. And it would point people to a Savior. Ephesians 5 says it this way, “22Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 31For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh ” This is a profound mystery, but I am talking about Christ and the church. That in the marriage relationship the image of the church and Christ should be clear. And when people see ladies, how you treat your husband, they should see a picture of the respect that we the church give Jesus Christ. The author, protector of our faith and the giver of marriage. - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - This concludes segment 2 for Women. The next 4 parts will be segment 3 for Men followed by segment 4 which will be the meatiest part of the series. I hope all continue reading and commenting or emailing and we delve into the second half of this search for a biblical relationship that most on Big Church seem to also be on here to do, continue or to start. 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6/4/2008 6:48 pm |
Now I know what a guy means by respect. 
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